Our Roles: men and women

Check out this great article from the Gospel Coalition:

taken from: http://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/genesis-revelation-issue

If you ever want to get folks lathered up, raising the issue of God’s gendered design is sure to do the trick. Such discussions can be frustrating, and they often leave us with more heat than light. This is, after all, an understandably sensitive—and therefore contentious—subject. Is the conviction that men and women are, as Tim Keller has put it, “equal but not equivalent” based solely on a few isolated (and likely misinterpreted) texts? Or is it rooted in something broader, something deeper, something more holistic?

In their thick new book, God’s Design for Man and Woman: A Biblical-Theological Survey(Crossway), Andreas and Margaret Köstenberger labor to demonstrate that, far from being a peripheral anomaly popping up here and there, male leadership and female partnership is a sustained pattern that spans the canon. It isn’t just about 1 Corinthians and 1 Timothy, in other words; it’s about Genesis to Revelation. Continue reading

To “Halloween” or not to “Halloween?

halloween imageEvery year, around this time, Christian families are – or should be – confronted with the question of whether to celebrate Halloween or not. The reason I say this is, because as Christians we should stay alert and re-evaluate what we are doing. Too often, we continue on in life and let life, the world, our neighbours and even our friends sweep us along and make choices on our behalf.

The same is the case for Halloween. Maybe you have always celebrated Halloween? Maybe it is part of your and your friends’ tradition. Maybe you remember the wonderful moments as a child when you dressed up as a princess, Kermit the Frog or a more frightful character.

The question is, do you really know what you are celebrating? Do your children really know? Here in Vienna, Austria,  in the run-up to the 31. October, all I see are masks and images of evil characters and dark costumes abounding in black material. On the night, again, that is all I see. Children dressed up as the best evil creatures they can think of, asking for sweets. But what does it all mean?

Here a few points to consider:

1. Is Halloween a pagan or Christian tradition and does it matter?

Halloween has pagan and, indeed, Christian roots. It comes from All Hallows’ Evening also known as Hallowe’en or All Hallows’ Eve, i.e. the evening before All Saints Day. This day, was, according to Wikipedia: ” part of the major feasts in the Christian Church (such as Christmas, Easter and Pentecost) had vigils which began the night before, as did the feast of All Hallows’.[65] These three days are collectively referred to as Allhallowtide and are a time for honoring the saints and praying for the recently departed souls who have yet to reach Heaven.”

Do you pray for the dead? I don’t. 
As an evangelical, bible-believing Christian, I do not believe in praying for the dead. The dead have gone, either to be with Christ, or to eternal damnation. I therefore would not want to get involved in this particular “feast”.

2. Where does the idea of “Trick or Treating” come from?

It is said that this part of the evening is linked to “souling”, when groups of poor people, many times children, would go door-to-door during Allhallowtide, collecting soul cakes, and in return would promise to pray for the dead, particularly the souls of the givers’ friends and relatives.
Again, I do not pray for the dead – nor do I take money or cakes in return for praying for people. Do you? 

3. Why costumes? 

Some say that the costumes and the celebrations linked to Halloween originated from the idea that people would dress up as evil in order to make fun of it and show that they were not afraid of it. Traditionally people believed that the souls of the dead wandered the earth until All Souls Day (so they waited?). People were worried that these souls would cause havoc in the meantime by trying to revenge themselves on their enemies (well, that could have been anyone and everyone…). So, the people came up with a clever way of avoiding this, dress up as one of them and be incognito…( if you are not smiling at this point – trust me, I am!).
So, just to be clear, I do not believe that the souls of the dead are wondering on the earth. Nor am I afraid of them.  I also do not believe that, if they were, they would be fooled by a costume. 

4. And the pumpkins and lights?
It is said that in the Middle Ages the carved pumpkins represented the souls of the dead.
According to Wikipedia: “In addition, households in Austria, England, Ireland often had “candles burning in every room to guide the souls back to visit their earthly homes”. These were known as “soul lights”.[81][82][83] Many Christians in continental Europe, especially in France, acknowledged “a belief that once a year, on Hallowe’en, the dead of the churchyards rose for one wild, hideous carnival,” known as the danse macabre, which has been commonly depicted in church decoration, especially on the walls of cathedrals,monasteries, and cemeteries.[84] ”
While I see no danger in carving nice images into pumpkins, I really cannot join in on this. I am not fascinated by the dead at all. I prefer focusing on the living, both here and in Heaven. And, wasn’t there something about predestination? So, lighting a candle for the dead, especially to avoid the “dance macabre” is far from my beliefs. Is it in line with yours? 
What about your children’s? 

5. Is today’s Halloween anything like that of days gone by? 
I come back to my earlier point. What I see when I observe Halloween is a pure fascinating with evil. It is a desire to be “evil” just one night out of 365 and to get away with (similar to Fashing in Europe), playing tricks, behaving like the monsters we dress up as.

Today’s Halloween is nothing like the original ones. It is focused on commercialism and desiring to “be evil” for a short moment. Halloween as we know celebrates evil.

And yesterday’s Halloween, rooted in Catholic tradition and mixed with pagan influences from across Europe and later America, was also far removed from any beliefs evangelical Christians hold today.

So, why spend time and money on a festival that focuses on the dead, encourages us to uphold evil as something special and underlines beliefs we, as evangelical Christians do not agree with? (Oh and before you say that Christmas was a pagan festival – which of the two has more chance of pointing to Christ?)

Would our time be better spent on the living? Maybe time to re-evaluate. 

Freedom, Ebola and the Mayor of Houston

Cameron SmithAt the brink of an international health crisis, the USA knows where its priorities lie: on freedom.

America, the land of the free, “knew better” than to infringe on the right of movement of a nurse who had been exposed to patients infected with the Ebola virus by possibly stopping her from boarding a commercial airliner.

That would have been un-American.  Or would it have been? – considering the safety of the other 132 passengers on board the flight?

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Cancer devours

heartNow you might have clicked on this article because you know people who have been suffering from or are suffering from cancer. I am writing this article, precisely for that reason. However, where I go with this might not be where you wanted me to go.

Recently, my husband was diagnosed with cancer.  While we are grateful to God for the good doctors he has had and the fact that thanks to the Lord he is doing very well, this period in our life (and due to ongoing three-monthly check-ups, we continue to be in this period …) has made me think of cancer in all its different forms.

The type of cancer I am writing about here is one of the most destructive. It enters like thief. It takes hold and tightens its grip and by the time it has grown out of proportion, it has taken us over and we become blind to it. The cancer I am referring to is the Cancer of Contempt. Continue reading

Helping kids get ready for Easter – Resurrection Eggs

Some very good friends of ours, Dave and Brenda, introduced us to the Resurrection Egg devotional game a number of years ago. They did this with their six children and passed it on to us. I greatly appreciate that they took the time to do that and am hereby passing it on to those of you who might have never heard of this!

The idea of the Resurrection Eggs is to help children learn about Christ´s sacrifice  and victory over sin by taking the children through the gospel story step by step, starting 12 days ahead of Easter. Continue reading

Making future choices for our children today – I love our school and here is why…

Taylor University ChoirThere are many decisions a parent has to take on behalf of their children. At times, we are torn between one or the other. As Christians, however, there is one thing we should not wonder about – that is the core of what our children should learn while they are young. We need to ask ourselves what it is we want them to leave with as they fly out from under the protective shade of our wings?

Think – the answer to that is not difficult. The best heirloom we can give them is for them to be grounded in the Christian faith. Why? Well, first of all, I believe that scripture teaches us that we should do so. Secondly, as we look at the world around us, full of incredibly fast change, choice on end and ever increasing sidelining of Christians, we should want them to be equipped and ready. Continue reading

This post is for you and I – no exception

picture by Jeff Boriss, Creationswap

picture by Jeff Boriss, Creationswap

Do you hand Gossip to God? Or do you join in or worry about it? The burden of gossip can be heavy. As a pastor’s wife, I often find myself both right in the heart of what is going on as well as left on the outside. It is normal. On the one hand people share their concerns with my husband and I, both serious concerns as well as those that flourish at the hands of idle talk. Other times, we are the focus of this idle talk. It can be quite unsettling and very tempting – to join in.

All of us, no matter what walk of life we are from are confronted with gossip again and again and we engage in gossip again and again. Not one of us can truly say that we are the exception. We engage in “idle talk or rumour, especially about personal or private affairs of others (see dictionary.com definition of gossip).

When we are involved in gossip, however, several things happen:

The person we are gossiping about is not uplifted and we have no intention of helping them in the first place. Our talk is meant to make us feel better about ourselves. That is the true intention. Because “if they are worse than I, I am better..”.(see the logical lie? ) However, we are not uplifted at all and we engage yet in more gossip and slander. And those we are sharing our “deep thoughts about others” with – also are not uplifted.

In fact, it always leaves a bitter taste. A taste of betrayal and, it makes us wonder what others might say about us. It leaves us entangled in a web of lies, half-truths and insecurities and makes us feel incredibly uncomfortable.

In ministry there are, in deed times, when we need to discuss issues of concern regarding members of our ministry or congregation. This, however, should only be done with the distinct aim to help and support them and for the good of those effected by their behaviour.

The bible teaches us that those who gossip cannot be considered as trustworthy and ultimately are at risk of separating friends – this refers to others who are friends, but we are also at risk of losing our own friends as a result.

Proverbs 11:13: He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets, But he who is trustworthy conceals a matter.

Proverbs 16:28: A perverse man spreads strife, And a slanderer separates intimate friends.

James 4:11: Do not speak against one another, brethren. He who speaks against a brother, or judges his brother, speaks against the law, and judges the law; but if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law, but a judge of it.

God, instead encourages us to encourage one another, focus on the pure and lovely things others do,  “that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Today, I handed my knowledge of gossip around me to God and he lifted my burden. I also know that I, too, fall prey to this favourite pastime, so I come before the Lord Jesus in faith that He would protect me from temptation and to cleanse me from sin. I have on average 12 hours a day I can fill with words and thoughts – good words or damming words, good thoughts or destructive thoughts. I know what I want to choose and I know that I can call on the Lord to help me when I stumble.  Will you join me in uplifting those around us and dwelling on whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise (Ephesians 4:29)?

Our Traditions – heirlooms of faith (Christmas)

Holly from the Garden

Holly from the Garden

In our home, we love traditions. It is not that we ever set out to do so, but rather something we have grown to cherish. Our children expect certain traditions at certain times throughout the year, without fail – particularly at Christmas. As my husband and I remind our children that Christmas is nearing, we can hear them saying: “Mummy, can you buy long matches so we can help light the candles?” “We are helping choose the tree…and I and Daddy will carry it – like always!”

Christmas is an ideal time to create traditions together. It is a time for teaching, learning and growing together as we contemplate the significance of Christ’s birth.

When The Lord tells us in Deuteronomy 6:4-9: …

4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a] 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.”

…we are called to make the every day going-ins and going-outs into opportunities to live out or love for God and through this teach our children. This is where our traditions play an important role.

Do we have a Christmas tree like most others but never explain why? Our oldest will tell you that we have a tree because it reminds us that Christ Jesus hung on a tree to die for us. Is that where the idea of the Christmas tree originated? No. But we choose to use this item of Christmas decor to remind ourselves that as Christ came into the world, He did so to die – for us. The ultimate sacrifice, the ultimate gift.

We are a third and fourth culture family with a mixture of American, British and other European influences. Our traditions result from a mish-mash of different cultures. Our main aim, however, is not to embody one culture more than another but rather to embrace the culture Christ is growing us into, that is the Family of God. So, if you were to watch us, you would see a very imperfect group of people, still growing, still learning … But one that tries to get stronger every year at loving The Lord with all our heart, soul and might.

We do so, also by opening our home to friends and strangers over Christmas. In the run-up to Christmas Day our house is a busy coming and going and finds its climax, so to speak, on Christmas Eve, when we invite about twenty to thirty people to our home for a simple but fun meal of soup and bread ( reminding us of the humble surroundings in which our Lord was born). Others bring snacks and goodies. We watch Mr. Bean Christmas – as the kids ( well, all really) cannot get enough of seeing Mr. Bean stick his head in the turkey…Then, with the help of some wonderfully musical friends, three generations of people sing Christmas Carols together – including “12 days of Christmas”, which we act out one by one as far as we manage between the bouts of laughter the individual acting evokes and most importantly some beautiful Christian carols. We then play a number if games, such as Sherades.

Finally, we go to a midnight candle-light service in town – celebrating the coming of our King!

In a setting such as ours, where many of us are not in our home country and family far away, we are blessed to have a family of friends who help us keep this tradition alive.

At the same time, our children learn to be part of a generational mix and to join in with all ages. We are thankful that those who are already grandparents take the time to be with us and lead us, as many of us cannot celebrate Christmas in the “traditional” wider family setting. And I wonder if they realise how precious it is to have them be with us? Older generations have much to share in terms of tradition and I, for one, would love for them to share more.

Our traditions develop over time, our reason for them, however, should not. There is a reason why ancient Jewish traditions are still alive today. It is not a result of haphazard circumstances, but an understanding of the importance of deliberate passing on of our faith through action, symbols and repetition.

Far too often, as modern evangelical Christians, with a desire to be ‘contemporary’, we tend to water things down and lose sight of the treasure that is to be found in the traditions of our Christian ancestors.

As in Deuteronomy, our lives should be filled with worship to God – in all things. Whatever your traditions at Christmas, or indeed throughout the year, make them Christ-centred and embrace family – be it your own family or the one God brings in the setting you are in. It is through family, our traditions and our continued walk in fellowship that we can impact the generations to come.

Let our traditions be an heirloom filled with Christ to the the generations who follow us.

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